the more a path is used…

“A path can appear as a line on a landscape. A path can also be a route through life. Heterosexuality can be a path; an easing of a passage, a clearing of a way forward. To deviate from that path can be hard. When it is harder to proceed, when a path is harder to follow, you might be discouraged; you might try and find another route. Think of how you can be dissuaded by perpetual reminders of how hard something would be. Deviation is hard. Deviation is made hard. So much is reproduced by the requirement to follow . . . The more a path is used the more a path is used.”
—Sara Ahmed, “Refusal, Resignation and Complaint,” feministkilljoys